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Wholehearted

WHOLEHEARTED – give it all every time I give at allWHOLEHEARTED – wait and see just how easily I fallWHOLEHEARTED – make it clear if you’re never gonna call‘Cause I can’tPretend thatI’m not me – WHOLEHEARTEDLY Welcome to the behind-the-song coverage of our first single! Check out the song on the front page of our website or our YouTube channel (the song is also available on major streaming services) and then, if you feel so inclined, come back here and find out what it all… Read More »Wholehearted

Self-Compassion

For more information on self-compassion please (and please do) check out self-compassion.org I was introduced to the idea of self-compassion, via Dr. Kristin Neff’s 2013 TEDx Talk, by the psychologist I was seeing in the mid-2010s. I was struggling more then than I am now. I was also not in a great place, executive function-wise,1 and generally speaking, I figured that made me a pretty bad human being. In a session with this psychologist, I was berating myself for something or other, and she suddenly asked… Read More »Self-Compassion

Songs I’ll Never Sing

Content Warning: some mention of death and dying I write a lot of songs, and plenty of them will never see the light of day because they’re just not very good. Promise not to procrastinate‘Cause I can’t waitTo be the one you can’t avoidYou’re making me feel paranoidYou’re out to get me, got me thinking ‘bout what happens nextFrom the time our eyes meet to all the restIt’s the best -yes, I wrote this, and I don’t want to talk about it But there is… Read More »Songs I’ll Never Sing

Upheaval

They say (somebody said, at least) that “No plan survives contact with the enemy.” In fact, I think no plan survives contact with anything outside the brain of the person planning. Sometimes my plans are dashed to bits before they even leave the relative safety of my own mind. This is why, despite great plans laid carefully time and time again, I am somehow still not exercising regularly. Exercise is one of those things that is supposed to be so good for your mental health… Read More »Upheaval

Shoot

Adam and I spent last Thursday afternoon and into the evening engaged in a photo shoot for Delicately Off-Balance.1 It was a lot of fun, we had a great time working with the makeup artist and the photographer,2 we ended the day dizzy with anticipation for the pictures, and even now, days later, we are exhausted. “My neck is stiff from staring at you.” -Adam The day after our shoot was our 11th wedding anniversary. We decided to celebrate by not doing anything terribly strenuous. I wanted to talk… Read More »Shoot

Music and Lyrics

A melody is like seeing someone for the first time… But then, as you get to know the person, that’s the lyrics. Their story. Who they are underneath. It’s the combination of the two that makes it magical. –Music and Lyrics If pressed, in the great debate of music vs. lyrics, I might say I fall on the lyrics side… by a hair. And only because words are maybe a bit easier for me to analyse and understand. Really, though, my opinion on the matter… Read More »Music and Lyrics

Change in the Weather

It’s that time of year again, the time when the weather blows right past the temperatures that I actually find comfortable and enjoyable and on into summer heat. This year, the predicted highs of the week1 have me thinking about something different. I’d say maybe it’s because this was already on my mind, but to be honest, this preoccupies me quite a lot and has for as long as I can remember, so I don’t know what has tied it to the weather this year. What… Read More »Change in the Weather

Burden

CW: brief discussion of suicidal ideation This week I want to talk about what it feels like to be a burden even when the people in your life try to tell you that you’re not, and why it’s actually okay to be a burden sometimes. I’m telling you ahead of time where I’m going with this because I don’t want anyone to get stuck in the first half, not make it to the last bit, and lose hope. So that’s where I’m headed. Hope. I… Read More »Burden

Vocal Rest

We’ve been sick for much of this month so far. And it’s the worst kind of sick, the kind that affects your voice. As of this writing, I haven’t been able to sing for more than a week. I rely heavily on singing to get me through my life. I sing in the shower, which is just about the only way for me to get through a shower without coming out the other side clean-but-miserable. I sing in the car, to keep myself both calm… Read More »Vocal Rest

Shoulds and Shame

In my experience,1 therapists hate “should” statements. I’ve been pondering the concept of shame lately, and how it is not very helpful. For the sake of a common definition, let shame be a negative emotion (or collection of emotions) that hits you when you realize you are doing or thinking or being something that you shouldn’t. It can be triggered from the outside, by cruel words, a look of disgust, or laughter. It can be triggered from the inside, by habit, by a memory, or by analysis. The key… Read More »Shoulds and Shame